It Really Does Get Better

Friday, November 5th, 2010

I have a bit of good news to report to you all. I was contacted recently by the lovely folks at the It Gets Better Project to see if I was interested in sharing my story in the book version of “It Gets Better.” It’s scheduled to be published in early 2011 and I can’t wait to see it.  From what I’ve been told, the book will feature testimonials from celebrities and regular people alike (like me, yay!). I’m just so excited to think that my story might reach an audience I wouldn’t be able to access on my own. I promise to keep you all updated on the progress of this project. I should be receiving a rough draft of my transcript and my contract some time soon (wow, I sound like a grownup).

In other news,  I’m in the middle of writing my first Creative Non-Fiction piece for the Hawaii Women’s Journal. I’m not entirely sure on the direction it will take, but I promise it will discuss the existential crisis I suffered after making the big move to Los Angeles.

It should be in the spring issue, so be on the lookout for it!

It Gets Better, So Please Hang in There

Sunday, October 17th, 2010

I’ve had  Dan Savage’s “It Gets Better” Project on my mind for the past few weeks.  The recent string of teen suicides reported on the news made me feel sick and reminded me of the problems I faced in high school. I decided that I wanted to contribute to the “It Gets Better” Project so that teens in crisis would know they are not alone.

I rarely talk about high school with others. In fact, I make it a point to avoid discussing that part of my life.  When I sat down to record my video, I had no idea how it was going to turn out. I didn’t know what I wanted to talk about and I didn’t know how I would feel afterward. I did at least 15 takes (three of them can be blamed on Chompers having a wild fit all over the apartment), but the other 12 opened old wounds and memories for me. After my final take, I actually felt good…really exposed. I haven’t felt that way in years and it reminded me of the awesome people who were really there for me when I was vulnerable. I hope my video confession reminds you that you are not alone and that if you need someone, there are lots of people out there who care about you. If you feel like you don’t have anyone to talk to, feel free to email me. My contact information is located at the top my website. You are not alone. You are loved.

Some think that getting bullied is a rite of passage, so they don’t say anything. They suffer alone and think somehow that they deserve it. Nobody should be teased or harassed for who they are. Nobody should feel afraid to be themselves.  Nobody should feel bad for who they are or love. Things will get better. You just need to hang on. One day, you’ll wake up and things will feel much better. You won’t remember when it happened, but you’ll be so happy that you stuck around for things to get amazing.

Let them try and push us down. Let them try and scare us into being someone else. We are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

Please hang on.